Divergently Being by Sonay Erten

Divergently Being is a coaching and assistive technology practice for autistic, ADHD and AuDHD adults, run by married co-founders Sonay Erten and James Carter. It suits adults who want help with how daily life, work and relationships actually run — not a programme to make them more organised, more productive or more "normal". Both founders are neurodivergent: Sonay was identified as autistic and ADHD in adulthood, and James is AuDHD. The practice is clear that it offers coaching, not therapy, counselling, medical advice or crisis support, and points people elsewhere for those.

Sonay came to coaching through law. She qualified as a Solicitor Advocate after several years in retail, sales, recruitment and customer care, and now coaches with an ICF Level 1 Certificate in ADHD-Informed Coaching and certification through ADHD Works, drawing on close to 500 coaching hours across legal, healthcare and corporate settings. Sessions deal with executive function, emotional regulation, confidence, communication, identity and relationships, and with transitions such as a new diagnosis, burnout or becoming a mother. That last area has grown into a strand called ADHD Mums, focused on neurodivergent women through pregnancy, birth and early parenthood. Sessions last 60 minutes, with a 90-minute top-up option and a twelve-session bundle, weekly or fortnightly, that includes contact by email or WhatsApp between sessions.

The practical side sits with James, who brings 21 years in IT, technical support and training. His assistive technology sessions help adults set up tools that fit how they work — Access to Work software, planning and task management systems, dictation and text-to-speech. Divergently Reset combines coaching with this systems work for people who want the reflective and the logistical handled together. Sonay also speaks on neurodivergence, including a TEDx talk, and the couple host Divergently Married, a podcast about life as an autistic and ADHD married couple — a low-commitment way to get a feel for their approach before booking.